Why relationships fray or be broken down altogether? Often times, outwardly people remain nice, but their hearts are filled with hatred, ready to backstab one's friends or foes at any given time. A few days ago I confronted a brother who did me great wrong. The incident of his transgression took place about 3 months ago. Over 30 minutes we talked and I tried to convince me what he did was uncalled for, unjust and shameful (though not in those strong words).
He gave all sorts of excuses from feigning ignorance or not taking responsibility and putting blame on others instead of himself. In that half an hour of conversation, he never admitted guilt, never said sorry or apologise but I had to chance to tell him that I might let go what he did a few months ago, but if he continued his bad behaviour and unjust actions, I would have no choice but to stand my ground. The harshest thing I told him upfront and he needed to hear that was what he did amounted to "penindasan" or oppression by lies and libels. And I told him to stop what he and others have been doing. I told him several times that I was speaking to him as a friend and a brother even as Scripture says, "if your brother sins, go to him and if he repents, forgive him, even to 7 times or 7 times 70".But I saw no contrition on his part. And after some reflection, I remember the verse in the book of Revelation that "let the wicked remain wicked, let holy be holy still" which means that it is so hard for people to acknowledge guilt and repent and because of their non-repentance they will be judged by their actions and their transgressions. May God have mercy on us all. Kyrie Eleison.
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